Hey, Doc! I was totally just told that I’m a sex addict. I’m not even really sure what that means. I mean, I figure that if I don’t go through pussy like a chain smoker with a box of cigarettes, I should be okay, right? Can you explain this all to me like I’m a…
Knot Applicable: BDSM in Real Life
So the second Fifty Shades movie came out earlier this year. And you know what, y’all? I could go all angry feminist about the series that would take way more column inches than Out In SA allots me. Short version? I’m so, so, so happy that people are having interesting and open conversations about BDSM…
A Look Inside Southtown’s Frida Kahlo-Inspired Casa Azul de Andrea
I have a confession to make, y’all. When I was finishing my undergraduate degree, I was offered an amazing opportunity for a full partnership in a little restaurant — total creative control and no financial investment necessary, just my kitchen prowess and my hard work. The space was available and the partnership was with an…
Celebrating the Vital Work of Community Leader Andrea Figueroa
A lot of people take time off between high school and college. Most don’t end up playing in a band in L.A, but that was the start of Andrea Figueroa’s path to becoming the executive director of the Martinez Street Women’s Center (MSWC). Not-for-profit work was not part of her original life plan, but now…
Living Church Pastor Joseph Garret Talks Compassion, Affirmation and Celebration
Let’s face it: We live in a world where organized religion has been increasingly weaponized. We have been confronted with growing amounts of hate in the name of spiritual belief systems and practice. I’ve had multiple clients and friends tell me that they have fallen away from the faith of their youth for multiple reasons.…
Intimacy in the Face of Fear
I had been planning a column on rebuilding relationships after a particularly heinous election year. “Elephants Need Love, Too” or something silly like that. But something happened that I didn’t really expect. Donald Trump won the election and the already-strained relationships surrounding his candidacy began to fracture and crumble. I was working out of town…
Meet the Homegrown Healers Behind Sol y Luna Soaps
Anyone who has ever worked with a loved one will tell you it can be the most rewarding experience in the world … as long as you don’t kill each other first. Manuel Davila and Beto De León are a local couple that have navigated that process with a level of success we can all…
Eating Clean to Get Dirty
Clinical nutrition work has been a bigger and bigger part of my private practice recently. People who aren’t digging talk therapy (or already have an amazing therapist) are coming in for nutritional coaching sessions because they want to boost their physical, mental and emotional health with nutrition and natural supplements. Less reliance on pharmaceutical demigods…
Battling the Sex-Life Hobgoblins of Negative Body Image and Performance Anxiety
Who’s the worst cock-block or clam-jam to your snag game? It isn’t the ripped firefighter on Scruff or the hot bitch holding court at Wax Club Lounge. It’s your own damn self, and you know I’m right. Nothing fucks up our ability to pull like our own internal dialogue. What’s body image, anyway? What you…
One-Week Stands and U-Hauling
Unless you live directly in the center of your Dirt Devil, you’ve heard the joke: “What does a lesbian bring on a second date?” Say it with me, now: “A U-Haul.” My lady-lovin’ ladies may get the most crap for this behavior, but in reality, no one is really exempt. Doesn’t matter if you are…