Originally published in the San Antonio Current. If you’re trying to have a sexy Valentine’s Day this year, H-E-B Grocery Co. is coming through. A tweet from @miranda_renee3 shows a stack of coupons expected to hit the shelves at the SA-based grocery chain on Wednesday, February 5. The coupon grabbed the attention of Twitter users…
Love & Lust
Knot Applicable: BDSM in Real Life
So the second Fifty Shades movie came out earlier this year. And you know what, y’all? I could go all angry feminist about the series that would take way more column inches than Out In SA allots me. Short version? I’m so, so, so happy that people are having interesting and open conversations about BDSM…
Intimacy in the Face of Fear
I had been planning a column on rebuilding relationships after a particularly heinous election year. “Elephants Need Love, Too” or something silly like that. But something happened that I didn’t really expect. Donald Trump won the election and the already-strained relationships surrounding his candidacy began to fracture and crumble. I was working out of town…
Eating Clean to Get Dirty
Clinical nutrition work has been a bigger and bigger part of my private practice recently. People who aren’t digging talk therapy (or already have an amazing therapist) are coming in for nutritional coaching sessions because they want to boost their physical, mental and emotional health with nutrition and natural supplements. Less reliance on pharmaceutical demigods…
Battling the Sex-Life Hobgoblins of Negative Body Image and Performance Anxiety
Who’s the worst cock-block or clam-jam to your snag game? It isn’t the ripped firefighter on Scruff or the hot bitch holding court at Wax Club Lounge. It’s your own damn self, and you know I’m right. Nothing fucks up our ability to pull like our own internal dialogue. What’s body image, anyway? What you…
One-Week Stands and U-Hauling
Unless you live directly in the center of your Dirt Devil, you’ve heard the joke: “What does a lesbian bring on a second date?” Say it with me, now: “A U-Haul.” My lady-lovin’ ladies may get the most crap for this behavior, but in reality, no one is really exempt. Doesn’t matter if you are…
Sexy Gifting on Point
That thing you bought last year seemed like a good idea at the time. It would have been hella hot, had you and Boo used it. But instead, Boo flipped and you got the verbal reaming of a lifetime. And now the season for stress is once again upon us. Damn. I know you’re thinking:…
Flibanserin Does Not Produce Girl Wood: An Addyi FAQ
The FDA just approved the drug flibanserin for women with hypoactive sexual-desire disorder. Most people were all, “Wait, what? Girl Viagra? Score!” when this really isn’t the case at all. I taped an interview with Charity McCurdy from WOAI recently about this drug and the impact of it (as well as hyposexual desire on relationships). Charity…
My kid came out to me…and now to you
I talk about my children quite often in my writing and my speaking engagements. But I only talk about what they are comfortable with me saying, and at the level they are comfortable with. They tend to be pretty open, but this particular bit of information isn’t something I have shared in the past. Why…
Dear Intimacy Doctor — When Is It OK To Cheat?
Dear Intimacy Doctor: My beloved wife had a debilitating stroke a decade ago. It left her more like a child that needs to be cared for, and that is what I do. But I’m awfully lonely and I miss the physical companionship of sex like a physical pain. Is cheating on her really cheating at…