Coming home for the holidays is often believed to be a happy event. There are visions of family gathered around the fire, laughing, and singing. That’s the subject of many a Christmas carol. But, then again, there’s the Christmas song, “Grandma Got Run Over by a Reindeer.” But for many in the LGBT community who…
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The Intimacy Doctor cooks with the Beekman Boys
I realize that I am the Out In SA sex columnist, not the food columnist. But since I adore food almost as much as I adore sex, I am also a regular attendee of events at the Central Market cooking school here in San Antonio. I got to hang out with the Beekman Boys this week,…
On the Chartreuse Couch: Margaret King Stanley
Gene: So, Margaret, Welcome to the Chartreuse Couch. Where the arts come to converse. Everyone loves the arts here in San Antonio and you have been a main instigator of this spiritual awareness all these many years with dance, the symphony, and now opera. And I know you want to speak on that topic and the new Tobin…
The not-so-mysterious rituals of gay parenthood
It’s 5:15 AM and I hear dance music. “All around the world, dah, dah, dah, dah, dah, dum. Around. Around. Around.” Stop! It’s Tuesday morning, and I’m listening to a dance-music compilation one room away. This is crazy: house dark, moon still out, husband asleep, dogs curled tight, and I’m listening to pulsing techno at…
Go f*ck yourself
“Everyone does it, but no one admits it.” This statement almost always refers to one of two human activities. One is eating Jack in the Box egg rolls at 3 a.m. The other is masturbation. Masturbation is simply the touching of one’s genitals for the purpose of sexual pleasure. Historical records and anthropological studies indicate…