I talk about my children quite often in my writing and my speaking engagements. But I only talk about what they are comfortable with me saying, and at the level they are comfortable with. They tend to be pretty open, but this particular bit of information isn’t something I have shared in the past. Why…
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Opera Piccola’s Mark Richter on the Chartreuse Couch
My greatest hope is that the gay community will embrace coming to the opera as a gay-friendly choice for their entertainment. Gene: So, Mark. Let’s talk opera. I know you have a lot to say on that topic and you have a performance soon at the Carver Community Center. A good location by the way.…
A favorite daughter and a forsaken son reconnect on the road from El Paso
The moral of this story, apparently, is when you’re la consentida, you can bring transgender friends home. Despite the fact that we were both born through a family with a deep history of homophobia, it still comes as a surprise to me how much more my half-sister Olga and I have in common. I’m the…
Gene Elder interviews art critic Sarah Fisch
Gene Elder: Greetings Sarah. Thank you for joining all of us on the global gossip sofa. Just move those stuffed animals out of the way and have a seat. Don’t sit on Bugs Bunny. I am very interested in your recent study venture in California, but I know we have more important things to discuss. Let’s…
Dear Intimacy Doctor — When Is It OK To Cheat?
Dear Intimacy Doctor: My beloved wife had a debilitating stroke a decade ago. It left her more like a child that needs to be cared for, and that is what I do. But I’m awfully lonely and I miss the physical companionship of sex like a physical pain. Is cheating on her really cheating at…
There is really only one key to relationship happiness
THOU SHALT NOT PUBLICLY TRASH YOUR PARTNER. Ok, there may be about 97 more, but honestly? Those are negotiations, not rules. Who gets the 3AM baby-feeding? Cat-vomit duty? Decides if the toilet paper roll hangs under or over? That’s all part of the relational dance that we have to navigate. But those aren’t the real…
Wedding Beaus: Wisdom from newlyweds
In celebration of the historic June 26 ruling from the Supreme Court finding a Constitutional right to marriage for same-sex couples, we’re posting stories and photos from our Spring wedding issue. Clay Rodgers spent one of his most memorable dates in a car. He and then boyfriend Ryan decided to drive to Las Vegas. The couple…
Toasts from Anel y Erika’s wedding
In celebration of the historic June 26 ruling from the Supreme Court finding a Constitutional right to marriage for same-sex couples, we’re posting stories and photos from our Spring wedding issue, starting with this series of toasts that were given last year at the Isla Mujeres ceremony of Erika Casasola and Anel Flores: As scientists try…
Now that you can get married … a few words of advice
Finally! It’s been too long. It’s way overdue, and we’re excited to see the barriers to marriage equality fall down. There’s even a clerk down at the courthouse waiting to give you a license. But wait just five more minutes, and read this first! Now that our community has the right to marry, we also…
#swingerprobs
Dear Intimacy Doctor: So, have you figured out a way to tell someone they’re rubbish in bed … meanwhile the other halves of the couples are banging like a house on fire? #swingerprobs (This is the point where the Intimacy Doctor strokes her imaginary Freudian beard and says “tell me more.”) His problem seems to…