Dear Intimacy Doctor: My beloved wife had a debilitating stroke a decade ago. It left her more like a child that needs to be cared for, and that is what I do. But I’m awfully lonely and I miss the physical companionship of sex like a physical pain. Is cheating on her really cheating at…
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Wedding Beaus: Wisdom from newlyweds
In celebration of the historic June 26 ruling from the Supreme Court finding a Constitutional right to marriage for same-sex couples, we’re posting stories and photos from our Spring wedding issue. Clay Rodgers spent one of his most memorable dates in a car. He and then boyfriend Ryan decided to drive to Las Vegas. The couple…
Now that you can get married … a few words of advice
Finally! It’s been too long. It’s way overdue, and we’re excited to see the barriers to marriage equality fall down. There’s even a clerk down at the courthouse waiting to give you a license. But wait just five more minutes, and read this first! Now that our community has the right to marry, we also…
Answering your kid’s sex questions
When By “Daisy Chain” They Don’t Mean the Beading Pattern I brought my bio daughter and bonus daughter to the gynecologist a couple of years ago. Both got annual exams and both were discussing birth control options with the doc. So the doc got to hear my speech with both of them about pregnancy prevention…
LGBT parents and the pressure to be perfect
If we fail, do we let the LGBT community down and prove our opponents’ beliefs true? It happened again. We were sitting at a restaurant–husband, two sons, and me. “Two checks?” asked the waitress. I’m always surprised. Our stock answer: “No, one family.” Then, an askance head cock, shoulder shrug, or a mildly perplexed look…
Trauma isn’t confined to the battlefield
In 2015, transgender military members risk administrative separation, meaning the person is forced out of the service, typically with no educational or retirement benefits. Love and change are not mutually exclusive terms. Unfortunately, fear creeps in when there is change. I love this country and tear up when the national anthem is played. Lately,…
Responding to bigotry with style and grace
Well, the holidays are long gone, and I’d like to point out the obvious now that the threat of spoilers is over: No, Timmy, there is no Santa Claus, and yes, the Bible does condemn homosexuality. Wait … don’t close that tab! During the winter break, a lot of folks came out to their loved…
An SA Transparent conversation
Last week, as Variety reported, the Amazon series Transparent made history when it won two Golden Globe Awards (best TV series, and Jeffery Tambor for best actor). It was the first time an online series won awards of that magnitude. The show itself– pardon the now oft-repeated pun–is transformative. The series, taken from creator Jill…
Opening hearts and minds, one episode at a time
Round and round and round she goes. “Come on, dad. Just do it.” I’m no fun, I guess. At least if fun includes signing up for every get-rich-quick or everyone’s-a-winner contest. But there we were, licking our wounds after a dispiriting Rampage rout at the AT&T Center, looking for some fun. Our youngest son, D,…
Coming out for the Holidays
Coming home for the holidays is often believed to be a happy event. There are visions of family gathered around the fire, laughing, and singing. That’s the subject of many a Christmas carol. But, then again, there’s the Christmas song, “Grandma Got Run Over by a Reindeer.” But for many in the LGBT community who…