Dear Intimacy Doctor: Simple question. I find myself incredibly attracted to this person, except physically. My body isn’t perfect by any means and I wouldn’t want someone discounting me because of physical attraction. But I can’t get myself turned on by this person. Am I a dick? Dear Dick Face: Simple answer first. Yes. You…
Love & Lust
Excuse Me? You Wanna Do WHAT? Navigating Differential Desires
You have a new boo. Life is excellent. You snuggle over mugs of coffee and split a slice of the white chocolate raspberry cake at Mad Hatters. You haggle over who gets the last of the coconut cream pie cookie at WD Deli after downing bowls of macaroni and cheese soup (Here’s a tip: Get…
Adam’s Top 10 Rules for a Happy Life
Greetings, Friends. Welcome to Out In SA! So good of you to click on me! As you already know from reading our mag and website, we here at Out In SA have our fingers on the pulse, such as it is, of the GLBT community in San Antonio. Amongst the many resources we plan to…
Gender Is Between Your Ears, Not Between Your Legs (Notes on Deconstructing The Binary)
I love “queer.” I see “queer” as meaning that which deviates from the script. Political resistance is “queer.” You live the best way you can, with the biggest awareness that you can, and try to mitigate suffering if you can. That’s what it means to be human. There’s no purity to one position. — Joan…
A Valentine fundraiser for AtticRep: burlesque, love letters, more
6:30pm Saturday, February 14 Roosevelt Library, 311 Roosevelt (210) 738-1060, tobincenter.org $150-$750 AtticRep presents a Valentine’s Day party with cocktails, dancing and dinner by Tim The Girl. All ticket purchases and donations benefit the AtticRep Theater Company, which continues to bring culturally significant productions to the community of San Antonio. AtticRep’s productions focus on contemporary…
Dear John Willie: The Complete Reprint of John Willie’s ‘Bizarre’
In olden days, a glimpse of stocking/Was looked on as something shocking/ But now, God knows/Anything goes Cole Porter, seeing the world changing before his eyes, wrote “Anything Goes” in 1934. It felt like a sexual revolution. It wasn’t; humans more or less behave like humans no matter what era you pick. The differences…
Hey, Lena Dunham? Thank You.
“Young people do not wake up on their thirteenth birthday, somehow transformed into a sexual being overnight. Even young children are sexual in some form.” – Heather Coleman, PhD & Grant Charles, PhD, University of Calgary, Alberta, Canada and The University of British Columbia, Vancouver, B.C. Two disclaimers: I have not read Lena Dunham’s…
The Lion Sings Tonight for AIDS research and support
The Lion Sings Tonight December 15th, Doors: 7 pm, Show: 8pm Cameo Theatre 1123 East Commerce Street $20-$65 Tickets here It’s time to get your hakuna matatas out to the Cameo Theatre for The Lion Sings Tonight: Holiday Edition in support of the San Antonio AIDS Foundation. The family-friendly event brings together 25 professional singers, dancers, and musicians…
The Intimacy Doctor shops for sex toys
The Two Main Characters in Pixar’s ‘Toy Story’ are Woody and Buzz Clearly This Was Intentional Me: I need a catchy title for my column about sex toys. Dan*: A dildo in hand is worth two in the bush? Me: No way! Two in the bush is waaaaay better! My poor fiancé really took one…
Talking about the bi bias
Greedy. Annoying. Selfish. Undecided. Gluttonous. Confused. Complex. Mysterious. Just a phase. HOT. OK if it’s girls. Lucky. Sluts. Purgatory. Evolved. Devolved. Playing with a full deck. Beer Bi. Negotiable. Rare. Unicorn. No! Heteroflexible. Swinger. Threesomes! Liars. Just experimenting. No man’s land. More options. Ugh, really? Narnia. Flirts. Nonexistent. Fluid. Too many fluids. Unfortunate. Unlimited. Why…