Love & Lust

Excuse Me? You Wanna Do WHAT? Navigating Differential Desires

Excuse Me? You Wanna Do WHAT? Navigating Differential Desires

You have a new boo. Life is excellent. You snuggle over mugs of coffee and split a slice of the white chocolate raspberry cake at Mad Hatters. You haggle over who gets the last of the coconut cream pie cookie at WD Deli after downing bowls of macaroni and cheese soup (Here’s a tip: Get

Gender Is Between Your Ears, Not Between Your Legs (Notes on Deconstructing The Binary)

Gender Is Between Your Ears, Not Between Your Legs (Notes on Deconstructing The Binary)

I love “queer.” I see “queer” as meaning that which deviates from the script. Political resistance is “queer.” You live the best way you can, with the biggest awareness that you can, and try to mitigate suffering if you can. That’s what it means to be human. There’s no purity to one position. — Joan

A Valentine fundraiser for AtticRep: burlesque, love letters, more

A Valentine fundraiser for AtticRep: burlesque, love letters, more

6:30pm Saturday, February 14 Roosevelt Library, 311 Roosevelt (210) 738-1060, tobincenter.org $150-$750 AtticRep presents a Valentine’s Day party with cocktails, dancing and dinner by Tim The Girl. All ticket purchases and donations benefit the AtticRep Theater Company, which continues to bring culturally significant productions to the community of San Antonio. AtticRep’s productions focus on contemporary

Dear John Willie: The Complete Reprint of John Willie’s ‘Bizarre’

Dear John Willie: The Complete Reprint of John Willie’s ‘Bizarre’

In olden days, a glimpse of stocking/Was looked on as something shocking/ But now, God knows/Anything goes   Cole Porter, seeing the world changing before his eyes, wrote “Anything Goes” in 1934. It felt like a sexual revolution. It wasn’t; humans more or less behave like humans no matter what era you pick. The differences

Hey, Lena Dunham? Thank You.

Hey, Lena Dunham? Thank You.

“Young people do not wake up on their thirteenth birthday, somehow transformed into a sexual being overnight. Even young children are sexual in some form.”  – Heather Coleman, PhD & Grant Charles, PhD, University of Calgary, Alberta, Canada and The University of British Columbia, Vancouver, B.C.   Two disclaimers: I have not read Lena Dunham’s

The Lion Sings Tonight for AIDS research and support

The Lion Sings Tonight for AIDS research and support

The Lion Sings Tonight December 15th, Doors: 7 pm, Show: 8pm Cameo Theatre 1123 East Commerce Street $20-$65 Tickets here It’s time to get your hakuna matatas out to the Cameo Theatre for The Lion Sings Tonight: Holiday Edition in support of the San Antonio AIDS Foundation. The family-friendly event brings together 25 professional singers, dancers, and musicians

The Intimacy Doctor shops for sex toys

The Intimacy Doctor shops for sex toys

The Two Main Characters in Pixar’s ‘Toy Story’ are Woody and Buzz Clearly This Was Intentional Me: I need a catchy title for my column about sex toys. Dan*: A dildo in hand is worth two in the bush? Me: No way! Two in the bush is waaaaay better! My poor fiancé really took one

Talking about the bi bias

Talking about the bi bias

Greedy. Annoying. Selfish. Undecided. Gluttonous. Confused. Complex. Mysterious. Just a phase. HOT. OK if it’s girls. Lucky. Sluts. Purgatory. Evolved. Devolved. Playing with a full deck. Beer Bi. Negotiable. Rare. Unicorn. No! Heteroflexible. Swinger. Threesomes! Liars. Just experimenting. No man’s land. More options. Ugh, really? Narnia. Flirts. Nonexistent. Fluid. Too many fluids. Unfortunate. Unlimited. Why

Go f*ck yourself

Go f*ck yourself

“Everyone does it, but no one admits it.” This statement almost always refers to one of two human activities. One is eating Jack in the Box egg rolls at 3 a.m. The other is masturbation. Masturbation is simply the touching of one’s genitals for the purpose of sexual pleasure. Historical records and anthropological studies indicate

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